alternate realities

i read a thing that made me sad, and posted a well meaning comment in the hopes of pointing out a different perspective on things. i think this was misunderstood.
i have not been exactly where this writer is, but have felt similarly powerless to change similarly shitty circumstances in my own life. my teen years were complete hell, as some of you know, since you went through it with me. right now i believe i am one of the happiest people i know. this is because i choose to be true to myself and do what it takes to be fulfilled, regardles of how it doesnt fit into others' plans for me..
it is not a pipe dream to believe that there are deeper reasons for the things that happen, or that possibly the things you do will have lasting effects that reach beyond yourself. why not? it is not unreasonable to at least experiment with directing your energy to create the effects you would prefer. we are not powerless to change things around us or within us, at any age. if we begin with what is inside, the effects there will be lasting, and it will not matter what the world does to hurt us, we will be our true selves regardless. if we allow ourselves to be sheeplike, to sleepwalk, to be led, we WILL have no power, and no consciousness even of the power we have given up of our own free will, in exchange for the easier path of following patterns and blaming others. if i had not looked at my fucked up family and chosen to think for myself and break away from that stupidness, i might have assumed that was all life had to offer, and i would be just like them now.
so it matters what you do. the choice to be here is made each moment and you do make it. the unseen reality you call a pipe dream is the future, and you are creating it. to assume that the what you do has no effect on things beyond yourself is selfish, irresponsible and blind. but even if that were true, its all about you on the inside, and in the end, in there, you're all you've got. so be kind to yourself in case no one else is.